Secret admirer

Be a secret admirer, the kind way

Let someone know they're admired without putting your name on it. Crushsprout sends them a warm, anonymous note, gives you both a private space to get to know each other, and waits for you to choose when to reveal.

Send your secret admirer note How it works

Free for everyoneno card needed

How it works

Set up your anonymous profile
Your favourites, 5 snaps and up to 3 short videos. This is how your crush gets to know you before your name.
Add their email
We send the note for you. It never mentions your name, and nobody else ever sees that you sent it.
They get curious
They sign in, see your anonymous profile and make their own. We email you when they've joined.
Step out when you're ready
Chat and play once they're comfortable. When they ask who you are, you decide when to reveal.

What your crush receives

Your crush gets an email that says: “Someone who knows you from your circle has added you on Crushsprout.” It’s short and warm, and it hints that their admirer is someone they already know, which is exactly what makes it intriguing.

Every invite uses this same kind wording. It can never sound pushy or be used to tease someone, so your crush can trust it’s genuine, and it carries a “Don’t contact me again” link in case it isn’t for them.

Say the rest with your anonymous profile

Your profile is your secret admirer letter. Your crush sees your favourite colours, music directors, places, movies, sports and books, along with your snaps and short videos. Choose things that feel like you: the café you both know, the song that’s always on, the trip you keep talking about.

Keep your face and identifying details out of them for now. A good secret admirer profile makes someone think “I’d like to know this person”, not “I know exactly who this is”.

From secret admirer to someone they know

A secret admirer note on paper is a one-way message. On Crushsprout it becomes a conversation. Once your crush is comfortable, you can chat with end-to-end encryption and messages that disappear after they’re read, and play games made for getting to know each other.

When they’re curious enough to ask who you are, you decide. You can show your reveal profile (your name, three photos and a short tagline) straight away or wait a little longer. After you reveal, they choose whether to share theirs back.

Keeping it kind

Being admired should feel lovely, so a few simple habits go a long way:

Invite someone you genuinely know and like, not someone you’ve only seen once.
Send one invite and give them time. We never pass on a “not now”, so nobody is ever put on the spot.
Let your profile speak for you, rather than dropping hints at work or with friends.
Follow their pace. The person you invite decides when chat and games open.

Private from start to finish

There’s no public profile, no search and no feed, so only the one person you invite can ever see you. Unanswered invites expire after 40 days, and then we delete their email address. Anyone can block anyone at any time. Everything is free, with no card needed. Read more about how we keep you safe.

Questions people ask

How do I send a secret admirer message online?

On Crushsprout, sign in, make an anonymous profile and add your crush's email. We send them an anonymous note saying someone from their circle added them, and they can see your anonymous profile and get to know you before you reveal who you are.

Can they find out who sent it?

Not unless you choose to reveal. The note never includes your name, and your name, email and reveal photos stay hidden until you decide to show them.

Can I write my own message in the invite?

The invite always uses the same short, kind wording, so it never feels like pressure. Your anonymous profile says the rest, and once your crush is comfortable, you can write whatever you like in the chat.

Is a secret admirer message free to send?

Yes. Crushsprout is free for everyone, with no card needed.

What's the difference between a secret admirer note and an anonymous confession?

A confession usually ends at the message. A secret admirer can keep going: on Crushsprout you can chat, play games and let your crush get to know you, and reveal yourself only when it feels right.